4/03/2009

Online Dating Lesson 1:Creating an Honest Online Dating Profile That Gets Results

by Kathryn Hamilton

Your goal when creating an online dating profile is to attract the type of person you would want to have a long term relationship with, Right? This seems like it should be simple-cut and dry, but just like everything else if you’re going to do a good job and get the results you want you need to do a little research and learn before you do. Let’s go over the different sections on a typical dating profile and I’ll give you tips for each section.

The Photo

You must upload your photo! I can’t stress this enough. People don’t reply if you don’t have a photo as part of your profile. They think there must be something wrong with your appearance, or that you are trying to hide a dishonest profile. Remember, your choice of photo says something about you and you want to be sure it’s not the wrong message or the replies you get will not be the ones that you are looking for. Your photo must be a current one. The other person is expecting to meet the current you-not the one from 10 years or 50 pounds ago. If they are the person you are looking for they will think you are beautiful or hansom just as you are today. An incurrent or altered photo is in essence a lie and will lead to disappointment and rejection later if you should meet in person. Professional photographers are trained to help you relax and capture your personality in your photograph and most can provide you with one in an uploadable format. If you choose not to use a professional, have a good friend whom you are comfortable with take the picture with a digital camera so you will be able to upload it easily. Remember not to rush the photo shoot, this puts too much pressure on you and you will end up with a stiff posed picture with no personality at all. If you take your time and have fun, you will be rewarded with a photo in which your personality shines through. Your main photo should be close up, a head shot if possible. One of the biggest mistakes people make is uploading a picture of themselves taken from too far away. In pictures like this it is hard to get a good look at you. Especially since the photo size on most dating sites isn’t very big in the first place. Dress as you would for your first date and unless you are trying to attract someone for casual sex, avoid wearing a bathing suit or other seductive clothing. Your goal is to look good, not for sale. There are creeps out there and for your own protection, you don’t want to attract these kinds of people. Also avoid having anyone else in your main photo , and it is fairly obvious when you have cropped someone else out of the photo. The person viewing your photo may wonder if that arm they see in the background belonged to your ex and they may lose interest. You should include at least 2 other photos of yourself and these can be of you doing a favorite hobby or activity. In these photos you can include other people or pets. Your selection of photos can tell a little story about yourself, so have fun and choose wisely .

The Headline

This is the section of your profile where you are asked to write a 1 line phrase describing yourself for people to notice when they are looking through the search results. Make this phrase catchy and fun. Include your favorite hobby or activity in a humorous way. For instance, if you are into gardening say garden lover seeks a great gal/guy with a green thumb. If you enjoy hiking and other outdoor activities say Nature lover seeks a guy/gal to share the view. Anything that will catch their eye and make you stand out when they are looking through lots of search results is what you’re after. Again , please don’t choose a sexually explicit message.

Skipping The 3 Most Common Essay Questions

The three most common essay questions on a dating profile are give some general information about yourself, describe your appearance, and what are you looking for in a partner. This is not as hard as most people make it. All you need to do is follow a few guidelines . First, don’t give out any personal information about yourself such as your full name, your address , your place of employment, your phone number, or your e-mail address (other than the anonymous one you get through your dating site) You need to get to know someone before you give out personal information. Keep the length of your answers to 4 or 5 lines per question. Save the details for your chats which are actually dates. Be truthful about your appearance . If there is something you don’t like about yourself such as your build or your weight, say you are average not athletic. Then you could say you are currently having fun working out at the gym or that you are on the Nutrasystem Diet and the food is great . This will let the person know that you are the type of person that is motivated to improve yourself and that is an attractive quality. Finally when you start listing what you are looking for in a partner try not to sound like a complainer with the negatives . If your ex always spent all of his free time watching T.V. and you never got out of the house and went anywhere say you are looking for someone who is willing to have adventures and try new things. If smoking is a deal breaker say no smokers, please. Doing this will prevent you from a real disappointment of finding out later after you have become emotionally attached through all your chats and phone calls. Your honesty should help keep the people you don’t want from contacting you in the first place.

Don’t Sit Back And Wait

You will have far more responses and a much more enjoyable experience if you jump right in and start contacting people right away instead of waiting for them to contact you. Many dating sites allow you to send a card to someone to get their attention and let them know you’re interested. This way if your headline didn’t catch their attention your card/e-mail will.

Spelling and Grammar Count

It may seem like a no brainier, but if you have a lot of spelling and grammar mistakes it will turn people off. People will think you are either uncaring , or just plain stupid.

It’s Not Written In Stone

If you aren’t getting any responses or the right kind of responses, go over your profile and make a few changes, and maybe choose different pictures. It costs nothing to tweak your profile from time to time . Online Dating isn’t an exact science and it may take a few tries to get it right. Whatever you do don’t get discouraged. There are many successful relationships that have started with online dating.

Keep your eye out for my next article titled Online Dating Lesson 2:How to Make Your First Chat Successful. Also you can seek my advice for free by clicking on the Ask Kathryn link at www.1HellofaMatch.Com.

Kathryn Hamilton is the co-founder of www.1HellofaMatch.Com an exciting online venue with 15 unique dating sites including dating for marriage,seniors dating,and dating for those with disabilities. She has been a private dating and relationship consultant for the last 5 years and she enjoys helping people take the stress out of dating. You can seek her advice for free by clicking the Ask Kathryn link on her website www.1HellofaMatch.Com.
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3/27/2009

Online Adult Dating: A thriving reality!

by Adam Jaylin

Dating isn’t as easy a proposition as it seems. The situation becomes even more muddled when you opt for the online version of the same. What exactly are you or the other person is looking for is a confusing reality. Equally confusing is the situation where you don’t know how genuine the feelings of your dating partner are. Does such mind boggling situations make you ponder over the pros and cons of online and offline dating services? What is better and more likely to get you what you require-love, lust, friendship or companionship?

Offline dating service is still surviving but it’s the online dating service that is actually thriving! More and more adults are now opting for the online version owing to its vast database of potential partners- black, gay partners, single, young, old et al. Hence, you are likely to find more dating choices in accordance with the attributes that you key in.

When it comes to online dating, anonymity is the key and that’s where adult online dating service scores over the offline one. For understandable reasons you might not want to reveal your true identity at the initial stages. Online service gives you that freedom to guide the relationship in accordance with your whims and fancies.

Meeting complete strangers, even for adults, is not a great idea. Imagine the possibility of getting to know the person, talking with him\her over the internet or phone before taking the final plunge. This definitely places you in a much better situation. Even mature adults might not feel it worthwhile to go for meets with complete strangers through an offline dating service and hence we witness more and more of them finally settling down with the online option.


At times of loneliness, at times when you feel the need and urge for a partner or at times when you need a shoulder to rest on, trust the online adult dating service that facilitates meetings with various kinds of people (who are seeking a date just like you) and for all kinds of purposes. Outnumbering the offline adult dating services by a few notches, the online version is sure to fetch you what you are seeking.

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3/20/2009

Matchmaking – the online remedy for loneliness

by David Yuri

The Internet offers a great opportunity for communication between people around the world; why not use this opportunity to meet other individuals who are equally interested in developing social, romantic or even sexual relationships? Online dating is not exactly a new concept. However, online matchmaking is a new concept through which members of an online community help each other find their match. Online communication also offers the comfort of your anonymity, encouraging those who are shy to express themselves with more ease.

For those who are not yet familiar with the notion, online matchmaking is not very much different from classical online dating. The end goal is similar for both of them: the possibility for two compatible individuals to get together. Most frequently, dating sites are virtual gatherings of lonely people trying to socialize with each other. Matchmaking sites facilitate selection by providing certified questionnaires and tests and apply specific selection criteria to their members. These sites function as a living, growing community where members, single or not, can help each other find the appropriate match.

Trying to establish a relationship with a stranger listed on a dating site among many others can be a rather difficult situation. One should establish some selection criteria such as sex, age, physical aspect (height, weight) or more subjective criteria such as interests and hobbies. There are some sites, which almost do the selection for you.

Membership on these sites is a question of a selective granting only to those who match some specific characteristics. Each new user needs to go through an assessment by the site coordinator who uses certified methods. Apart from that, many personal details need attention, as well as a description of the person desired. Once a member, one gradually obtains rating points from other members and, of course, from the administrator.

Before registering with one of the matchmaking sites, think about some things to request from the one you would like to meet and some of your own characteristics. Clarify things that you compulsory request from the one you intend to develop relationships with, features you would appreciate, but you can do without and characteristics you will not tolerate.

To what concerns your own person, you should select endearing attributes, activities, interests and hobbies, but also state things you wish to improve in your attitude and / or appearance. This review of yourself and your wishes will be rather difficult to go through, but it will improve your orientation and will increase your chances to find the appropriate one.

Anonymity is a controversial subject. It might be the greatest advantage of Internet communication. Those who are shy or reserved have the chance to explore a relationship before disclosing intimate details. Inappropriately used by some, anonymity can lead to rather inconvenient insecurity, but the test of time will differentiate those who show serious interest.

There are many other advantageous attributes of online dating. One of them is that you can access the site at any time of the day or night. This is convenient as many of us are still lonely because our professional life doesn’t leave much time for joining new groups and meeting new people. Another aspect is that millions of people currently figure as registered on matchmaking sites. This large number guarantees a wide diversity, so you have small chances of not finding what you want.

Yet another favorable aspect is that you can easily point out your best attributes in the profile you create for yourself. In this manner, you escape the wrong first impression you might cause. One of the best advantages is that you have enough time to react; you can take as much time as you need to respond if you don’t do very well in the heat of the moment.

Today, new and more efficient methods of online relationship development have appeared as a substitute for the old-fashioned and traditional online dating sites. The innovation consists of new methods to create personalized profiles and capacity to initiate conversations based on compatible individuals. This removes the frustration and insecurity of initiating a conversation with a stranger and gives such communities the possibility to give happiness to those who are lonely. With the use of modern technology, matchmaking online provides facilitated communication between people all around the world.

Don’t hesitate to choose online matchmaking. Our website guarantees great dating opportunities with people of whom you now only dream.
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3/13/2009

How To Find Online Dating And Chat Friends

by Clair Harvey -

Single people from all over the world find a great relief to know that nowadays it has become really easy to search for dates, companions or just friends on the Internet. Most of the singles find online dating and chat communication as fun, and therefore it is very comfortable to turn to this method of meeting new people and making friends. The new revolution in terms of online dating and chat came with the difference between dating sites and relationship sites.

For instance, online dating and chat for fun is what most singles turn to on the Internet, and sites such as American Singles or http://Match.com fully meet their needs. There is casual dating and loads of games and jokes particularly in chat rooms. But with http://Date.com, you may get to a different level, not just chatting, but moving on to being seriously committed to finding someone to share your life with. For some people, it may be just some kind of pass time, but for others, it's serious business.

Maybe you're out for an afternoon date, or maybe you'll find love for a life time. Online dating and chat can take you to a different level, if you need upgrades, just do your best to be loved. Why are chat rooms so much looked for? It's the only way to communicate directly with your date. It's difficult and particularly rare to fall in love with someone without knowing anything about each other. Online dating and chatting represent the virtual small talk of two people on a regular date, who need to find out more.

Online dating and chat have become even more popular thanks to the advance of the technology. Not only can you talk to your date, but you can also see each other on webcams. Video chat is an immense success, and lots of singles fully take advantage of it. All dating sites have the option for video chat, and it is highly advisable that you look for those dates that use a webcam. It somehow breaks the wall the distance the computer screen puts up.

Once you are combining online dating and video chat, you will be one step further to meeting your other half. For instance, you won't have to worry and wonder about how the other one may look like, and the chances of meeting someone dishonest are significantly lower. How come? Well, with a webcam you don't rely on the typed words exclusively, the image offers you another type of language to decipher: body language, you will definitely get an impression on the others unspoken reality.

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3/06/2009

How to Choose the Right Online Dating Service - a Woman's Guide

by David Kamau

Choosing a dating site can be intimidating. There's a virtual smorgasbord of choices. This article will guide you on how to choose the right dating site by narrowing down the field.

The right dating site for you is the one the best fits who you are and what you are. You need to be clear about yourself and your goal - your personality type and what you are want. Among the most important things to consider are:

1. Your likes and dislikes

2. Your interests and hobbies

3. The type of relationship you want.

If you are new to online dating, or are simply seeking a companion, the best path is the one that leads to popular dating sites. If marriage or a long term relationship is the goal, then go for a matchmaking site.

There are also dating sites that cater to adult needs, as well as sub-categories of the adult niche such as encounters, BDSM, fetish, swinging et al.

Special interest and community dating sites also exist for almost anything you can think of...outdoor or fitness enthusiasts, couch potatoes, religious, non-religious, gays, lesbians etc…well, almost anything you can think of. So what's a girl to do? A girl should choose the site or sites that best fit her needs.

There are free sites. Not recommended but if money is a real concern, they are better than nothing. There are the large paid sites with many and varied features like chat, IM and profile matching systems. There are also less expensive paid sites but, naturally, with fewer features.

Here are some things to consider when choosing a dating service:

1. Database: Obviously, you don't want to be in a site where you are the only girl. You also need choice so that you may come to, hopefully, the best match for what you want in a mate.

2. Cost. How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership(s)?

3. Features. Which features are the most important to you?

a) Profile matching systems. Is this a feature you really want or would you rather decide who is right for you all by yourself?

b) Chat and IM? There are websites who offer chat rooms, live web (or video) chat and IM (Instant Messaging) on their sites. Does that matter or would you be happy with just email?

c) Outside Events…such as speed dating? Are you interested in that?

d) Privacy: Some websites allow you to limit who can view your picture or your profile. Does this matter to you or do you want as wide exposure as you can have?

e) Safety. There are websites that perform background checks of all subscribers and certify their age, marital status and criminal background. Would you feel safer using this feature?

These are a few things but not all things you should consider when choosing an online dating service. Do your homework, choose wisely and you might find the just the person you seek.

David Kamau offers objective dating site reviews and online dating tips at his website. Now find out how to receive free best-selling ebooks on Romantic Ideas and tips about dating.
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