4/17/2009

Online Dating Tip: Make Your First Email A Personalized One

by Bonny Albo

When initiating a conversation with someone from an online dating website, a tip to the wise: make sure your note is something personal and specific to the person whose interest you are trying to attract. This online dating tip applies doubly to men than it does for women, unfortunately.

Why? Women, on average, get twenty times more responses to their profiles compared to men. Similar to the offline world, online dating is usually instigated by the man in a heterosexual pairing.

But how do you make this online dating tip work for you? Read the profile of the person you are trying to attract very carefully. Take a couple of minutes, and make notes if required. Then, when you start writing that first email, comment on the items mentioned that caught your interest.

For instance, "I noticed that you are an animal lover. Do you have any pets?" or, "Wow, a fellow urban spelunker! We are a rare breed. How did you get into the study of urban archaeology?"

When you use the same email to send out to everyone that catches your fancy in the online dating world, it smacks of rudeness and insincerity. It's not hard to spot a fake in person, and it's even easier to spot one online. Take some time to make your first inquiry something original, unique, and interesting.

Most online dating tip websites also add that you should make as little of the first message about you as possible, and focus instead on the person you are emailing. In my experience, I've found that this is sound advice. Focus on the person you are trying to get to know, without making it sound like you are playing 20 questions. Of course, you can add some tips about yourself in the online dating response. And it's probably a good idea if you think about it - otherwise the other person is left thinking, "Um, who IS this person, and why should I bother emailing them back?".

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4/10/2009

Online Dating Lesson 2:How To Make Your First Chat Successful

by Kathryn Hamilton

Before you have that first chat with someone at an internet dating site, make sure you read their entire profile. This will provide you with material you can use to get the conversation started. Usually in their profiles, people speak in broad terms about themselves rather than being specific. They put things such as "I like sports" or "I enjoy outdoor activities" or "I like going to the movies". This is an excellent opportunity to get to know this person and let them know you are interested in more than just their picture. You could say "I see you like sports, what's your favorite team?" or "I noticed in your profile that you enjoy outdoor activities. I enjoy canoeing and bike riding, what are your favorite outdoor activities?"or "I see you like going to the movies,me too!I like to watch comedies, what type of movies do you like?. By starting the conversation this way after a few minutes the other person will feel thy are talking to a friend right away and not be so shy and the conversation will then take off in many different directions.

Be careful to avoid simple yes and no answers because they don't really make a conversation and this may turn the other person off. Remember the point of this conversation is to find out if you are compatible.

Avoid unpleasant topics such as crime. You want to keep the conversation fun and upbeat .

No matter how tempted you might be, don't make exaggerated claims about yourself. This only leads to rejection and disappointment later should you meet in person. To find your true soul mate, honesty about yourself is really important.

Even though I have cautioned you to avoid giving simple yes and no answers, on this first chat, don't be a complete open book either. Remember this first chat is to determine if you are compatible. Once you determine that you are, you could end the chat by saying "I have really enjoyed chatting with you, we seem to have a lot in common. Then decide on a time and date for your next chat. A little mystery is exciting and will leave you both eager for your next chat.

Finally I want to caution you to NEVER give out your full name, address, place of employment, or phone number during your first few chats. Usually the person you are talking to is sincere but on the off chance they are an internet predator,you need to know that they could use this information to figure out where you live. Most predators aren't in for the long haul and if you don't give up this information within the first few chats, they will probably look elsewhere. If anyone tries to pressure or coax this information out of you this should send up a red flag and you should end the chat immediately and report them to the dating site. This type of behavior is unacceptable.

If you follow these guidelines, you will have a safe and enjoyable first chat and you will be excited for the next one.
Keep an eye out for my next article, Internet Dating Lesson 3: How to Safely Take Your Internet Relationship to the Next Step .

Kathryn Hamilton is the co-founder of www.1HellofaMatch.Com an exciting online venue with 15 unique dating sites including dating for marriage,seniors dating,and dating for those with disabilities. She has been a private dating and relationship consultant for the last 5 years and she enjoys helping people take the stress out of dating. You can seek her advice for free by clicking the Ask Kathryn link on her website www.1HellofaMatch.Com.
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4/03/2009

Online Dating Lesson 1:Creating an Honest Online Dating Profile That Gets Results

by Kathryn Hamilton

Your goal when creating an online dating profile is to attract the type of person you would want to have a long term relationship with, Right? This seems like it should be simple-cut and dry, but just like everything else if you’re going to do a good job and get the results you want you need to do a little research and learn before you do. Let’s go over the different sections on a typical dating profile and I’ll give you tips for each section.

The Photo

You must upload your photo! I can’t stress this enough. People don’t reply if you don’t have a photo as part of your profile. They think there must be something wrong with your appearance, or that you are trying to hide a dishonest profile. Remember, your choice of photo says something about you and you want to be sure it’s not the wrong message or the replies you get will not be the ones that you are looking for. Your photo must be a current one. The other person is expecting to meet the current you-not the one from 10 years or 50 pounds ago. If they are the person you are looking for they will think you are beautiful or hansom just as you are today. An incurrent or altered photo is in essence a lie and will lead to disappointment and rejection later if you should meet in person. Professional photographers are trained to help you relax and capture your personality in your photograph and most can provide you with one in an uploadable format. If you choose not to use a professional, have a good friend whom you are comfortable with take the picture with a digital camera so you will be able to upload it easily. Remember not to rush the photo shoot, this puts too much pressure on you and you will end up with a stiff posed picture with no personality at all. If you take your time and have fun, you will be rewarded with a photo in which your personality shines through. Your main photo should be close up, a head shot if possible. One of the biggest mistakes people make is uploading a picture of themselves taken from too far away. In pictures like this it is hard to get a good look at you. Especially since the photo size on most dating sites isn’t very big in the first place. Dress as you would for your first date and unless you are trying to attract someone for casual sex, avoid wearing a bathing suit or other seductive clothing. Your goal is to look good, not for sale. There are creeps out there and for your own protection, you don’t want to attract these kinds of people. Also avoid having anyone else in your main photo , and it is fairly obvious when you have cropped someone else out of the photo. The person viewing your photo may wonder if that arm they see in the background belonged to your ex and they may lose interest. You should include at least 2 other photos of yourself and these can be of you doing a favorite hobby or activity. In these photos you can include other people or pets. Your selection of photos can tell a little story about yourself, so have fun and choose wisely .

The Headline

This is the section of your profile where you are asked to write a 1 line phrase describing yourself for people to notice when they are looking through the search results. Make this phrase catchy and fun. Include your favorite hobby or activity in a humorous way. For instance, if you are into gardening say garden lover seeks a great gal/guy with a green thumb. If you enjoy hiking and other outdoor activities say Nature lover seeks a guy/gal to share the view. Anything that will catch their eye and make you stand out when they are looking through lots of search results is what you’re after. Again , please don’t choose a sexually explicit message.

Skipping The 3 Most Common Essay Questions

The three most common essay questions on a dating profile are give some general information about yourself, describe your appearance, and what are you looking for in a partner. This is not as hard as most people make it. All you need to do is follow a few guidelines . First, don’t give out any personal information about yourself such as your full name, your address , your place of employment, your phone number, or your e-mail address (other than the anonymous one you get through your dating site) You need to get to know someone before you give out personal information. Keep the length of your answers to 4 or 5 lines per question. Save the details for your chats which are actually dates. Be truthful about your appearance . If there is something you don’t like about yourself such as your build or your weight, say you are average not athletic. Then you could say you are currently having fun working out at the gym or that you are on the Nutrasystem Diet and the food is great . This will let the person know that you are the type of person that is motivated to improve yourself and that is an attractive quality. Finally when you start listing what you are looking for in a partner try not to sound like a complainer with the negatives . If your ex always spent all of his free time watching T.V. and you never got out of the house and went anywhere say you are looking for someone who is willing to have adventures and try new things. If smoking is a deal breaker say no smokers, please. Doing this will prevent you from a real disappointment of finding out later after you have become emotionally attached through all your chats and phone calls. Your honesty should help keep the people you don’t want from contacting you in the first place.

Don’t Sit Back And Wait

You will have far more responses and a much more enjoyable experience if you jump right in and start contacting people right away instead of waiting for them to contact you. Many dating sites allow you to send a card to someone to get their attention and let them know you’re interested. This way if your headline didn’t catch their attention your card/e-mail will.

Spelling and Grammar Count

It may seem like a no brainier, but if you have a lot of spelling and grammar mistakes it will turn people off. People will think you are either uncaring , or just plain stupid.

It’s Not Written In Stone

If you aren’t getting any responses or the right kind of responses, go over your profile and make a few changes, and maybe choose different pictures. It costs nothing to tweak your profile from time to time . Online Dating isn’t an exact science and it may take a few tries to get it right. Whatever you do don’t get discouraged. There are many successful relationships that have started with online dating.

Keep your eye out for my next article titled Online Dating Lesson 2:How to Make Your First Chat Successful. Also you can seek my advice for free by clicking on the Ask Kathryn link at www.1HellofaMatch.Com.

Kathryn Hamilton is the co-founder of www.1HellofaMatch.Com an exciting online venue with 15 unique dating sites including dating for marriage,seniors dating,and dating for those with disabilities. She has been a private dating and relationship consultant for the last 5 years and she enjoys helping people take the stress out of dating. You can seek her advice for free by clicking the Ask Kathryn link on her website www.1HellofaMatch.Com.
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3/27/2009

Online Adult Dating: A thriving reality!

by Adam Jaylin

Dating isn’t as easy a proposition as it seems. The situation becomes even more muddled when you opt for the online version of the same. What exactly are you or the other person is looking for is a confusing reality. Equally confusing is the situation where you don’t know how genuine the feelings of your dating partner are. Does such mind boggling situations make you ponder over the pros and cons of online and offline dating services? What is better and more likely to get you what you require-love, lust, friendship or companionship?

Offline dating service is still surviving but it’s the online dating service that is actually thriving! More and more adults are now opting for the online version owing to its vast database of potential partners- black, gay partners, single, young, old et al. Hence, you are likely to find more dating choices in accordance with the attributes that you key in.

When it comes to online dating, anonymity is the key and that’s where adult online dating service scores over the offline one. For understandable reasons you might not want to reveal your true identity at the initial stages. Online service gives you that freedom to guide the relationship in accordance with your whims and fancies.

Meeting complete strangers, even for adults, is not a great idea. Imagine the possibility of getting to know the person, talking with him\her over the internet or phone before taking the final plunge. This definitely places you in a much better situation. Even mature adults might not feel it worthwhile to go for meets with complete strangers through an offline dating service and hence we witness more and more of them finally settling down with the online option.


At times of loneliness, at times when you feel the need and urge for a partner or at times when you need a shoulder to rest on, trust the online adult dating service that facilitates meetings with various kinds of people (who are seeking a date just like you) and for all kinds of purposes. Outnumbering the offline adult dating services by a few notches, the online version is sure to fetch you what you are seeking.

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3/20/2009

Matchmaking – the online remedy for loneliness

by David Yuri

The Internet offers a great opportunity for communication between people around the world; why not use this opportunity to meet other individuals who are equally interested in developing social, romantic or even sexual relationships? Online dating is not exactly a new concept. However, online matchmaking is a new concept through which members of an online community help each other find their match. Online communication also offers the comfort of your anonymity, encouraging those who are shy to express themselves with more ease.

For those who are not yet familiar with the notion, online matchmaking is not very much different from classical online dating. The end goal is similar for both of them: the possibility for two compatible individuals to get together. Most frequently, dating sites are virtual gatherings of lonely people trying to socialize with each other. Matchmaking sites facilitate selection by providing certified questionnaires and tests and apply specific selection criteria to their members. These sites function as a living, growing community where members, single or not, can help each other find the appropriate match.

Trying to establish a relationship with a stranger listed on a dating site among many others can be a rather difficult situation. One should establish some selection criteria such as sex, age, physical aspect (height, weight) or more subjective criteria such as interests and hobbies. There are some sites, which almost do the selection for you.

Membership on these sites is a question of a selective granting only to those who match some specific characteristics. Each new user needs to go through an assessment by the site coordinator who uses certified methods. Apart from that, many personal details need attention, as well as a description of the person desired. Once a member, one gradually obtains rating points from other members and, of course, from the administrator.

Before registering with one of the matchmaking sites, think about some things to request from the one you would like to meet and some of your own characteristics. Clarify things that you compulsory request from the one you intend to develop relationships with, features you would appreciate, but you can do without and characteristics you will not tolerate.

To what concerns your own person, you should select endearing attributes, activities, interests and hobbies, but also state things you wish to improve in your attitude and / or appearance. This review of yourself and your wishes will be rather difficult to go through, but it will improve your orientation and will increase your chances to find the appropriate one.

Anonymity is a controversial subject. It might be the greatest advantage of Internet communication. Those who are shy or reserved have the chance to explore a relationship before disclosing intimate details. Inappropriately used by some, anonymity can lead to rather inconvenient insecurity, but the test of time will differentiate those who show serious interest.

There are many other advantageous attributes of online dating. One of them is that you can access the site at any time of the day or night. This is convenient as many of us are still lonely because our professional life doesn’t leave much time for joining new groups and meeting new people. Another aspect is that millions of people currently figure as registered on matchmaking sites. This large number guarantees a wide diversity, so you have small chances of not finding what you want.

Yet another favorable aspect is that you can easily point out your best attributes in the profile you create for yourself. In this manner, you escape the wrong first impression you might cause. One of the best advantages is that you have enough time to react; you can take as much time as you need to respond if you don’t do very well in the heat of the moment.

Today, new and more efficient methods of online relationship development have appeared as a substitute for the old-fashioned and traditional online dating sites. The innovation consists of new methods to create personalized profiles and capacity to initiate conversations based on compatible individuals. This removes the frustration and insecurity of initiating a conversation with a stranger and gives such communities the possibility to give happiness to those who are lonely. With the use of modern technology, matchmaking online provides facilitated communication between people all around the world.

Don’t hesitate to choose online matchmaking. Our website guarantees great dating opportunities with people of whom you now only dream.
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